A woman and a man walking on a path in a park. A 1-in-20 challenge logo sits next to the left of them. Below the logo is the text "120km in October for the 1-in-20 grieving kids".

1-in-20 Challenge: Taking Steps for Grieving Kids

What is the 1-in-20 Challenge? 

In Australia 1-in-20 children will lose a parent before they reach the age of 18. Every family that is struggling with grief deserves support, and together we can make a difference!  

Walk or run 120km for grieving kids and their families, or start by aiming to raise a goal of $120. Together we can fund camps, research, and build on resources to help grieving kids across Australia.  

By completing the 1-in-20 Challenge not only will you help grieving kids heal, but you and your family can gain from the health and wellbeing benefits of the challenge.  

Benefits of Exercise in Adults and Children: 

  • Improved mood state – Physical activity triggers the release of endorphins. These hormones can help our mood and reduce feelings of stress, anxiety and depression.  
  • Lower levels of stress – Engaging in physical activity can lead to a sense of relaxation and calmness, helping to alleviate stress and tension. 
  • Boost in self-esteem – Exercise can lead to a sense of accomplishment, which can contribute to an improvement in self-esteem and self-confidence. 
  • Improved sleep – Regular physical activity can contribute to better sleep quality for children and adults. 
  • Distraction – Exercise can be a helpful distraction from negative thoughts and ruminations.  
  • Social interaction – Participating in group physical activities can provide children and adults with opportunities to interact with others, develop friendships, and improve their social skills. These interactions can help reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation, fostering a sense of belonging.  
  • Emotional regulation – Physical activity provides a constructive outlet for negative feelings. Engaging in physical activity can teach children how to manage their emotions in a healthy way. 
  • Cognitive benefits – Exercise has been shown to enhance cognitive function and brain health. 
Girl walking with a dog on a path next to the beach.
Feel the Magic Camper, Emily, participating in this year’s 1-in-20 Challenge

Interview with Serenity McEwin, Pediatric Occupational Therapist

If you aren’t already inspired to continue to take part, or sign up, one of our incredible Feel the Magic volunteers has provided us with expert knowledge on the benefits of the 1-in-20 Challenge.  

Serenity McEwin is a Pediatric Occupational Therapist supporting children and young people to be as independent as possible with the things they need and want to be doing. Serenity has answered some of our questions about the benefits of the challenge from her professional perspective.  

From your OT perspective, what are the general benefits of exercise? 

  • Increases our physical health, mental health, and quality of life. 
  • Increases neural connections in the brain and enhances communication between both sides of our brain which positively impacts our cognition, ability to learn, our behaviour, and our attention.  
  • Regulates our sensory and nervous systems – movement can be calming or alerting.  
  • Helps to develop the fine and gross motor skills needed for learning, play, and everyday life skills. 
  • Can alleviate sleep-related problems.  

From your OT perspective, what are the benefits of walking and talking for language development?  

Walking and movement wakes our brain up. Neuroscience shows us that movement improves the brains cognitive regulation skills, that is, the ability to focus, think clearly and logically, plan, organise, create and be empathetic. Therefore, we can expect the quality of our conversations during a walk to be greater.  

    A walk and talk is an opportunity for back-and-forth conversation, which activates the part of our brain responsible for language production and processing.  

    During a walk, parents can model and facilitate asking questions, making comments, and expanding on words and ideas.

    Why is the 1-in-20 Challenge beneficial for grieving kids? 

    Research shows us that taking a sideways approach to talking with our kids (conversing while engaged in an activity, where eye contact is optional) helps them to feel more comfortable and relaxed, which leads to more open communication.  

      In terms of walking and talking, exercise releases endorphins, serotonin and dopamine, and positive social connection releases oxytocin, all of which are feel good chemicals that promote feelings of happiness and wellbeing. These feel-good chemicals give us the power to regulate our emotional responses and relieve discomfort.  

      Walking also provides an escape from grief through distraction – and even better if out in nature, which is shown to lower the stress hormone cortisol.  

      Why are family activities beneficial from your perspective? 

      Family group activities help us to feel seen, heard and valued – they increase our sense of connection to our caregivers and/or siblings. The more connected we feel to others, the less likely we will respond with maladaptive behaviours when times get tough, and the more likely we are to bounce back after hardship.  

        Connection also supports us to develop social skills so that we can increase connections outside of our family, a factor which is strongly linked to wellbeing. 

        Father and daughter smiling
        Emily and her Dad, Geoff

        Benefits of exercising as a family: 

        One of the greatest benefits of this challenge is the social interaction that it facilitates for grieving families. Whether you undertake this challenge as a family, with friends, or with other grieving families in the Feel the Magic community, exercising with others can have numerous benefits that extend beyond our physical health.  

        Some of the benefits of exercising as a family include: 

        • Quality time – Exercising together allows for dedicated quality time, away from screens and daily distractions. 
        • Role modelling – A parent/guardian who prioritises exercise sets a positive example for children. 
        • Positive memories – Shared physical activities can create positive associations with exercise for children. 
        • Teamwork and cooperation – Exercising as a family can foster stronger family bonds through teamwork and cooperation.  
        • Communication – Exercising together provides opportunities for open communication, allowing family members to share thoughts and connect.  
        • Social interaction – Exercising with others enhances interpersonal skills and strengthens relationships. 

        Now that you know the benefits of participating in the 1-in-20 Challenge, it’s not too late to join if you haven’t signed up yet. Here is how you can take part: 

        1. Set up your profile as an individual or as a team and invite others to participate 
        1. Tell your colleagues, family and friends and ask for donations 
        1. Feel good knowing every step you take will change the lives of grieving kids 

        Check out Serenity’s pages: 

        facebook.com/firstplaythengrow 
        instagram.com/firstplaythengrow 

        Top tips to cope with Father's Day

        Top tips to cope with Father’s Day

        Father’s Day can be a difficult day for many children grieving the death of their dad or a significant male in their life.

        Many people struggle to know what to say to a grieving child. It is through the fear of saying the wrong thing, they often say nothing at all, leaving the child feeling even more isolated and alone.

        You may be wondering what the best way is to support grieving children during difficult times. The following tips may be useful this Father’s Day:

        1. Plan ahead

        A reminder that Father’s Day is coming up is a helpful way to begin the conversation around what they want to do for it.

        It is important to not assume you know what they will want. What they did last year might be exactly what they want to do again – or they might want to do something completely different. Similarly, some families may like to revisit old traditions, whereas others may like to invent something new for Father’s Day.

        • Provide Comfort

        By simply taking the time to let a grieving child know that you are there and thinking of them, shows them that they are not alone this Father’s Day.

        Grieving children often feel isolated from their friends and community. Others around them may not have experienced bereavement and loss like they have. They can feel detached and alone, especially on significant days like Father’s Day.

        • Consider different ways to express their feelings

        If children don’t want to talk about their grief verbally, conversation and connection can be through drawing, craft, dance, poetry, play, images, and text messages.

        Offer your child to write in a journal throughout the day. You might also want to offer your child a forum to connect with other family or friends who knew the loved one and share their memories of them

        • Listen

        Father’s Day is an occasion that can bring powerful feelings to the surface. Some of these feelings might be isolation, anger, jealousy, and sadness. Some grieving kids might want to talk about their feelings, whilst others might try to express how they’re feeling through their behaviour.

        It is important to listen to them and show them that what they are feeling is valid and completely normal. You might want to give your child ‘permission’ to not be okay, freeing them from expectations. Click here to read our blog on Managing Big Feelings this Father’s Day for more tips.

         We asked grieving kids from our Feel the Magic community to share what they would like their friends and family to say to them on Father’s Day. Here is what they said.

        If you are supporting a bereaved child or know one, there is help available and a community that understands what you are going through.

        Our mission at Feel the Magic is to ensure grieving kids, families, and their friends have the support and resources to help them feel and heal through their grief.

        Our Grief Resource Hub has guides, activities, books, videos, and TED talks you may find helpful.

        We have a range of face-to-face and virtual camps, so we can help grieving kids heal – no matter where they are.

        If you would like to consider a donation this Father’s Day, please click here.

        Father Day with Coby

        “Father’s Day is a good day to me, I get to focus on Dad that day. Having him on my mind makes me feel better. In the lead-up to Father’s Day it can be scary, but on an actual day it’s usually really nice. I can feel him around me. I’m going to remember him by visiting a place in the Mountains we liked to go to. It’s a special place for us. To anyone else who has lost their dad, my advice is to use it as a way to dedicate a whole day to the person you love. Keep them on your mind and do things in memory of them.

        Koby, Camp Magic Camper.

        Two people in dresses standing in front of a blue snow flake screen smiling

        A Magical Night of Gratitude and Generosity

        The 9th Night of Magic Winter Wonderland Gala dinner transported guests into a realm of enchantment while creating a meaningful impact.

        A sincere thanks to everyone there. The atmosphere was incredible and we hope you walked away feeling inspired. We sure did.

        Raising money to send kids to Camp Magic

        Your company and kindness at this extraordinary event raised over $150k for grieving kids and families to attend camps and programs, providing them with support and a community during their grief journey.

        We are still open for donations if you’d like to help us edge closer to our goal of raising $225,000.

        If you are inspired to help, please click on the link and donate, or share with others who could also support Feel the Magic – great timing with tax time just around the corner! All donations over $2 are tax-deductible.

        This thank you message is from some of our Campers.

        Congratulations to our lucky winners:

        1st Prize: Luke Loseby

        2nd Prize: Matthew Kelly

        3rd Prize: Pat Eagleton

        4th Prize: Arwel Roberts

        From all of us at Feel the Magic, and the many families we support, we say a huge heartfelt thank you to everyone at Night of Magic – our Masters of Ceremonies Dimity Clancy and Hayley Kime, event partners, donors, volunteers and supporters for helping us do what we do to serve our community.

        View the photo gallery here.

        Thank you to all involved in Night of Magic

        Our Winter Wonderland Night of Magic gala dinner would not be possible without the support of our sponsors and partners. Thank you to Shaw and Partners Financial Services, WIM Resources, Alceon, ForteIS, Metway Developments, Metro Solutions, Southern Steel, Alpin, Kelly & Partners Chartered Accountants, Acumen Strata, St George Bank, Doltone House, Batch Brewing Co, Southtrade International, From Sunday and Icons of Sport.

        Thank you to those who generously donated the many auction and raffle prizes. From unique experiences to getaways, gift packs, sporting memorabilia, and much more, we had a raft of amazing items and prizes on offer during the evening.

        To our amazing and giving volunteers, we are so incredibly grateful for your support at Night of Magic, at every Camp and fundraising event. You continue to inspire us. You all took time out of your day and evening to make our Winter Wonderland possible. A heartfelt thank you. Feel the Magic would not be possible without you.

        A special thank you goes to our Night of Magic committee for their time and energy to help make the night a success. Thank you, Adam Blatch, Kristy Thomas, Sean Preece, Kevin Smaller, Felicity Thomas, Harriet Gerrard, Tricia Gerigk and Sarah Askew.

        We acknowledge our Mission Partner the Saunders Family Foundation for their continued support for Feel the Magic. From the very beginning, their support has funded numerous Camp Magic programs and fundraising events. Monica and Betty have continued the proud Saunders family legacy of supporting those in need.

        We could not be more grateful and appreciative of their continued and impactful support. Thank you for your belief and support in the Feel the Magic vision.

        Group of six men in cycling gear on top of a hill

        Magic Ride 2023 aims to raise $150k to send 100 kids to Camp Magic

        Magic Ride kicks off at 8.30 am on Thursday 13 April 2023. 33 riders will cycle 500km over four days to raise $150,000 to fund 100 kids to attend Camp Magic, Feel the Magic’s signature three-day camp for grieving kids.

        Riders will cross the finish line to the cheers of Campers at Camp Magic, Birrigia Outdoor School, Tharwa on Sunday 16th April at 1.50 pm.

        Raising funds to support grieving kids and families

        Adam Blatch, Chief Executive Officer Feel the Magic, who is also part of the dedicated riding crew, is grateful to the 33 riders, their donors and support crew for their commitment and effort.

        1 in 20 kids in Australia will experience the death of a parent before they turn 18, that’s just over 300,000 children or one in every classroom. Based on this, we are all likely to know a family affected by parent loss. In addition to this, kids also experience sibling loss.

        Bereaved young people commonly suffer challenges including anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation, which contributes to the nearly one-quarter of young people in Australia who experience some form of mental health challenge. We aim to reduce the mental health challenges associated with childhood grief and provide the education, support and community for kids to live healthily with grief”.

        Mike Tomalaris, Australian news and sports presenter has anchored the world’s biggest annual sporting event on Australian television for 26 years and seen the Tour de France coverage develop to be the spectacle it is today.

        Mike will join the riding crew on day four, Sunday 16th April cycling 67km to arrive at the finish line at Camp Magic, Birrigai Outdoor School, Tharwa ACT.

        Magic Ride – A Vital Community Fundraiser

        From its beginnings in 2020, Magic Ride has become a vital community fundraiser to help fund camps, research and resources for grieving kids and families. All Feel the Magic camps, programs and resources are free of charge (and some camps are virtual) so there is no barrier to families seeking the support they need.

        Since 2020, the generosity of Magic Riders, sponsors and supporters has enabled Feel the Magic to:

        • Raise almost $282k so far
        • Fund 4 Camp Magic camps
        • Educate 188 children through the Camp Magic experience

        Read more about Magic Ride 2023 and Feel the Magic in the press release.

        Good Blokes Society Walk for 24

        Good Blokes raising money for grieving kids

        Building relationships with Good Blokes, giving to charity partners (like us), and pounding the pavement to raise money to send grieving kids to camp. Now that sounds like a bunch of Good Blokes!

        Our friends at Good Blokes Society are doing the Ozwide Carbon Good Blokes Walk for 24, walking 24 hours for men’s health with fundraising proceeds going to their charity partners, including Feel the Magic, and the GBS Members Wellness Fund.

        Over the course of the coming months, they are hoping to raise $75,000 for Feel the Magic to send 50 kids to camp in Victoria next year.

        Good Blokes Society walk the walk for men to be open and honest when discussing mental health and wellness. Good Bloke Society provides a range of safe and secure platforms for men to create and develop their social and business relationships.

        Feel the Magic CEO Adam Blatch recently caught up with Good Blokes Society Founder Shaun Wallis to find out more about the organisation, the Walk for 24 event, and the amazing fundraising efforts of their members and donors.

        Read a snippet of their chat below or listen to the full interview here.

        Adam Blatch, CEO Feel the Magic chats to Good Blokes Society Founder Shaun Wallis

        What does Good Blokes Society do?

        We bring men together to create positive business and social relationships, with a strong and holistic approach to all sorts of men’s health, mental health, and any challenge a male might go through in life. We are a community of good blokes that just want to support each other, enjoy our passions, and help each other where we can.

        How do you plan on raising $75,000 for Feel the Magic?

        We run lots of different events where we talk about our charity partners, about fundraising, and we run auctions and raffles. We were introduced to Feel the Magic by some of our longer-term members and it is an organisation doing wonderful things, so we are more than happy to grow a relationship with Feel the Magic and contribute to funding a camp next year. We are also doing a walk for 24 hours for Feel the Magic and other charity partners next week.

        How did you decide to partner with Feel the Magic?

        Relationships is the short answer. We are a relationship business and as I say to members “the more you put in, the more you get back”. Being at some Feel the Magic events, and as a father of two young kids, I felt the magic you create and heard some of the stories that some of the kids have related to. That is the purpose to support Feel the Magic.

        What is a highlight of a fundraising experience you’ve had so far?

        A highlight has probably been the Good Blokes Walk for 24. After such a disastrous period which was caused through the pandemic for a business that is face to face and built on connection, there was uncertainty about whether this business can grow or flourish.

        It was after the third lockdown or so that I decided to go and walk for 24 hours to raise money and awareness. Other members joined, creating a bond with those guys, the support from members and the amount of donations we raised was a highlight of what was a difficult year. I thank COVID for that now and it is now in its third year.

        We thank Good Blokes Society for their partnership with Feel the Magic to help us support more grieving kids and teens. Find out more about them here.

        Photo credit the Good Blokes Society.